Saturday, May 20, 2006

Too Drunk too Fuck Funk Chuck Chunks

What am I going to do about myself? (doo doo doo doo)

I ruin relationships because I can't trust anyone, I won't trust ANYONE.

Previously I have not been in relationships worth saving, but now I am, what can I do to stop myself from ruining it?

I may aswell ask the internet, its like asking the stars, but with the chance of some intelligent reply without a decoder.


Blogger Face said...

P.S, its the old: 'I'm scared he's going to leave me for someone else so I get upset and push him away before he does it to me.' So far he always swings back, but one day I'm afraid I will push so hard that I break the swing.

8:18 PM  
Blogger Kim Ayres said...

Are you worth it?

Quick pop psychology assessment - you've previously gone in for relationships with people you knew it couldn't work with because you didn't think you were really deserving of love and commitment, so you had a built in failure.

However, by luck or mistake you've ended up with someone who does actually think you're worth it and that's freaked you out so you're going to keep pushing it and keep pushing it and keep pushing it until he finally goes away and you can justify to yourself that you were right all along and weren't worth it.

Now there could be a hundred million reasons why you're like this - from childhood traumas, through to unloving parents, rejection from a teacher, sexual abuse, believing what you read in the romance novels etc.

Do you want this guy? Yes. Then talk to him and work with him on the relationship. Every lasting relationship requires constant working on. Over time you learn each other's hopes, fears, deisres, limits, times you can be pushed and times you should be left well alone.

Do you want this relationship to work? Then why shouldn't it?

If you really want something enough, then you'll find a way.

It will help if you can get to the root of why you feel so undeserving though (so much easier said than done).

At its heart, the problem isn't somuch that you don't trust him, but that you don't trust yourself - and that's where you need to start looking first.

3:24 AM  
Blogger Face said...

Thanks, Kim. I knew there must have been a reason why you were able to grow such a long and luscious beard.

9:55 PM  
Blogger Alida said...

You'll be fine.

You've got the FACE, afterall.

4:07 PM  
Blogger surly fag said...

i don't know anything about your relationship, or your inner dialogues, or love.. in general. i certainly don't know much about love.

so.. *hugs*? and hey, from a cold fish like me that's a big thing.

3:23 AM  
Blogger post said...

hey what do you know, we're on the same boat.

4:56 AM  
Blogger The Swearing Lady said...

You have a love swing. What can go wrong?

6:25 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Kim gives VERY good advice ;)

u, me + post should start a club, fer similar reasons.

4:53 PM  
Blogger Face said...

Thanks youse,

Alida, I may have the Face, but sometimes it falls oof by accident, just a full stocking at christmas, asshole. (oh how long til christmas asshole is past?)

OmG, S Fag, I actually made you write with *little stars* I cant help but feel like its just not you. But thanks! umm, *Blush*?

Post, I'm glad I'm on a boat with you. Is it a post boat? Can we open all the parcels?

Swearing Lady, have you ever seen an old painting called 'The Swing'? A Lady in a frilly dress is simultanousley swinging in the stupidest outfit imagineable, loosing one shoe as it flies into the surrounding forest, and having some creepy white-haired stockinged pervert stair up her skirt. So quite alot, I spose.

Sol, love problems eh? I guess we all have them. According to these people though,
None of us should even bother!

10:39 PM  
Blogger Alida said...

Haha... I had to look it up and laugh. It's bizarre!

6:26 PM  

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